By the time I reached my eighth month of pregnancy, my world had narrowed in ways I never expected. Every movement required planning. Every errand took effort. My body felt unfamiliar, stretched and sore, yet deeply purposeful. I was carrying a new life, and while that filled me with quiet pride, it also left me exhausted in ways no one had prepared me for.
That evening should have been unremarkable. My husband and I had gone to the local market for groceries, nothing unusual, nothing dramatic. By the time we returned home, my legs ached and my back throbbed. The weight of the day pressed down on me, and I did what seemed reasonable. I asked my husband if he could carry the grocery bags inside.
It was not said sharply. It was not a command. It was a simple request from a woman nearing the end of pregnancy, hoping for a small moment of support.
Before he had a chance to answer, my mother in law spoke.
Her voice was sharp, impatient, and loud enough to cut through the air. She looked at me with open irritation and said words I will never forget.
“The world does not revolve around your belly. Pregnancy is not an illness.”
I stood there, stunned. The bags felt heavier in my hands. I waited, instinctively, for my husband to step in. To say something. To acknowledge that what she had said was unkind, or at the very least unnecessary.
He did not.
He nodded, as if agreeing with her. As if her words were reasonable and mine were not.
So I picked up the bags and carried them inside myself. Every step hurt, but not in the way sore muscles hurt. This pain came from something deeper. From feeling dismissed. From realizing that the person who should have stood beside me chose silence instead.
That silence followed me through the evening.
